When I’m working with our dating coaching clients on their online profiles and communications, one of the first things I do is to ensure that the picture(s) the client posts online is (are) a recent and accurate representation of the best version of their authentic self.Selecting the right pictures warrants due consideration: while you certainly want to put your best foot forward and make a great first impression with your online pictures, in doing so, you do not want to sabotage your first in-person encounters by setting the bar unrealistically high.Sure, we’ve all heard not to judge a book by its cover.But in the online dating world, sometimes a picture is all you have to go by! Picking out photos to use can feel like a lot of pressure, especially if you’re someone who likes to avoid the camera. Major online dating companies regularly complete large-scale surveys to figure out exactly what potential matches find attractive.And even if attractive people get more messages, it doesn’t mean that they’re fastest to find an offline connection.
Common sense might make you think that posting an overdone trendy photo will lead to an immediate negative opinion from potential matches.
In reality, Mesa Mayor John Giles is happily married — and has been for more than 30 years. "That day, I went home to my wife and said, 'You're never going to guess what happened today.
But online, his personal photos are attached to a dating profile for a divorced dad in Vancouver, British Columbia, looking for "another opportunity to find something special."Giles learned that an unknown, online persona is using his personal photos on last week when a woman reached out to the Mayor's Office.
_____ [More from Jasbina] — The uniqueness of Intersections Match comes from the life experiences of its Founder, Jasbina Ahluwalia.
As a former practicing lawyer who also holds a graduate degree in philosophy, Jasbina can relate first-hand to the demands and challenges facing her accomplished clients.