Invalidation disrupts relationships and creates emotional distance.When people invalidate themselves, they create alienation from the self and make building their identity very challenging. If you’re the recipient of invalidating messages, know this: YOU’RE NOT CRAZY! Possible explanations (other than psychopathy) are a low capacity for empathy and compassion, not understanding or valuing the importance of validation, and/or not knowing how to express it effectively. The well-intentioned invalidators often defend that the goal is to help someone feel better or differently — to an emotion they judge as a more accurate, more valid one.
In terms of self-invalidation, many emotionally sensitive people would agree they invalidate themselves, but would argue that they deserve it. Verbal Invalidation There are many different reasons and ways that people who care about you invalidate you. Misinterpreting What It Means to Be Close: Sometimes people think that knowing just how someone else feels without having to ask means they are emotionally close to that person.
: Learn to recognize emotional invalidation in all of its insidious forms.
Any time someone around you is emotional, watch the reactions and responses of others.
Emotional invalidation is when a person’s thoughts and feelings are rejected, ignored, or judged.
Invalidation is emotionally upsetting for anyone, but particularly hurtful for someone who is emotionally sensitive.